Confronting Life’s Challenges: How to Use Adversity to Your Advantage

Aaron Bouren
3 min readJan 23


Growing up is hard. It’s full of challenges and obstacles that can be difficult to overcome. But it’s these challenges that help us grow and become the best version of ourselves. Here are 10 harsh realities that can help you grow:

  1. Life is not fair. This is a hard pill to swallow, but it’s an important lesson to learn. Life doesn’t always give us what we want or deserve, and it’s up to us to find the silver lining and make the best of what we have.
  2. You will face rejection. Whether it’s in love, career, or friendships, rejection is an inevitable part of life. It can be painful, but it’s important to remember that rejection is not a reflection of your worth. It’s simply an opportunity to move on and find something or someone better suited for you.
  3. You can’t please everyone. No matter how hard you try, there will always be someone who doesn’t like you or your work. It’s important to focus on pleasing yourself and being true to yourself, rather than trying to win the approval of others.
  4. Failure is a natural part of the journey. No one succeeds without experiencing failure along the way. It’s how we learn and grow. Embrace failure as an opportunity to learn and improve, rather than letting it hold you back.
  5. You will experience heartbreak. Whether it’s the end of a relationship or the loss of a loved one, heartbreak is a painful but necessary part of life. It’s through heartbreak that we learn to love and appreciate the people in our lives even more.
  6. You will have to make tough choices. Life is full of difficult decisions, and it’s up to us to make the best choice for ourselves. Trust your gut and don’t be afraid to make a tough decision if it’s what’s best for you in the long run.
  7. You will face criticism. It’s inevitable that we will face criticism at some point in our lives. It’s important to remember that criticism is often a reflection of the critic, not of you. Take it with a grain of salt and use it as an opportunity to improve.
  8. You will have to confront your fears. Whether it’s a fear of failure, rejection, or something else, we all have fears that hold us back. It’s important to confront these fears head on and push through them in order to grow and move forward.
  9. You will make mistakes. We all make mistakes — it’s a natural part of being human. The key is to learn from these mistakes and use them as an opportunity to grow and improve.
  10. You will have to let go of things. Whether it’s a person, a place, or a thing, we all have to let go of things in order to move on and grow. It’s hard, but it’s a necessary part of life.

Growth isn’t easy, but it’s through facing these harsh realities that we become stronger and wiser. Embrace these challenges and use them as opportunities to grow and become the best version of yourself.

Originally published at on January 23, 2023.



Aaron Bouren

Aaron Bouren, CEO of Bouren Ventures, is an entrepreneur, public speaker, sales trainer, and marketing expert. Learn more at