Take Radical Responsibility & Own Your Life.

  • If you are still dreaming and haven’t reached your goals, you can take control.
  • If your bank account has more red and fewer commas, you can take control.
  • If your marriage is failing, breaking, or weak, you can take control.
  • If there is a disconnect from your loved ones, you can take control.
  • If you don’t have joy, you can take control.
  • If you wish you were in a different business/field, you can take control.
  • If you feel like you don’t have enough time in the day, you can take control.
  • If your emotions and feelings control you, you can take control.

What does Radical Responsibility Mean?

One Decision.

Radical Responsibility Means YOU are 100% Responsible.

  1. Precise Expectations- What type of standard have you been setting in your life? You teach people how to treat you by the standards you set. If you feel there’s someone in your life that isn’t meeting your criteria, start by looking at the expectations you have for/with them. Be clear and precise. Make sure they know and understand. Ask them for what they expect from you too. Many times this is all that’s needed to repair a relationship.
  2. Communication Constant communication with team or person you work/live with is essential. When you do check-ins and communicate regularly, misunderstandings happen less. Address concerns right away and the morale within the relationship shift.
  3. Eliminate the Toxic People in Your Life — If someone isn’t cutting it, you can eliminate them from your inner circle. You can stop letting them hurt you. You can become indifferent when they exert lousy energy out to you. Sometimes this means co-existing with them in the workplace, but deciding that they have zero power over your emotional well-being. Replace the toxic with healthy relationships. If you’re the boss, this means hiring top-notch team members from the start. If you are an employee, it might mean you need to leave your ego aside to get along for the project’s sake and walk away without angst when the workday ends. If the angst continues, you ultimately can walk away from your job and find one more suited for you.

Taking Control in the Workplace

  1. Precise Expectations/Directions, Agreed Consequence. If you assign a job/project, make sure the entire team is clear on the directions and expectations. Make sure there are deadlines and consequences.
  2. Communicate. WHO is on the team, WHAT do you expect from them? WHERE is the job taking place? HOW do you expect them to do it? WHEN must it be done? If you’re on the team, make sure you are clear what the other members expect from you, and make sure you are clear with them what you expect them to do. Over communication will not ruin the job.
  3. Trust. No one likes a micro-manager. Once you set expectations trust your team members. Communicate regularly but don’t be a helicopter. They will sense your trust and work hard to keep it.
  4. Consequence. If you’re the boss and the team doesn’t deliver on time or what you expected, don’t be quick to blame them for the poor performance. Take a walk to the bathroom and look in the mirror. Did you explain your expectations clearly? Did you provide the resources they needed? Did you communicate and check in regularly? Did you coach them and listen to their needs? Did you see a struggle and ignore it instead of jumping in to help? What is the culture of your company/workplace? Are the team members excited and happy? Usually, the answer is YOU, not them. If the answer is indeed a member on your team, they must be reassigned elsewhere in a role that better suits them, or let go. You can’t be wishy-washy or a doormat when it comes to business. The consequence of not executing the consequence is vast. Think just because you’re an employee, you have zero control? WRONG. If you can’t remove people, remove yourself. If you change a lousy work environment, remove yourself. If you can’t remove yourself, change your attitude.

You are the author of your story.

  1. Your decisions over time give you the results you’ve gotten up to now.
  2. Laziness counts. If you are sitting here still saying you’ve done everything and yet are not in control… look at what you haven’t done. The lack of action is also to blame and, ultimately, your responsibility.
  3. How you react to “things that happen” is a choice.
  4. The power of NO. Saying no is hard. But you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. Sometimes saying no is very awkward or uncomfortable. Another mantra to store in the toolbox: Get comfortable saying “I’m sorry, this doesn’t work for me. No need to explain yourself.

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Aaron Bouren

Aaron Bouren


Aaron Bouren, CEO of Bouren Ventures, is an entrepreneur, public speaker, sales trainer, and marketing expert. Learn more at aaronbouren.com